National Grief Awareness Week exists to raise awareness of all aspects of grief and loss on a national scale, and also to signpost channels of support for those who have suffered a bereavement and are in need.
“Grief is the price we pay for love.” Who can forget that simple truth so movingly delivered by Her Majesty the Queen?
As two bereaved parents who have experienced the death of our daughter Kallipateira at 37 weeks of pregnancy in October 2018, as individuals and as a couple we experience grief on many different levels each and every day. There is no right or no wrong way to grieve. You are your own individual – be proud of the person you are- and do what you need to do through love. Remember grief does not just go away.
Life is short and the fact is one day we will all die – so while we are here and given this precious life, we must all make the most of it. None of us know what is around the corner.
October is our most difficult month of the year as we acknowledge our daughter’s birthday while reaching many dates that remind us of what happened. Time does not heal the pain. Last month just days before Kallipateira’s birthday Ben’s dad Martin died then exactly a week later Gaynor’s mum Jennifer. Jennifers funeral has taken place, but Ben’s dads service is yet to take place which has taken its toll on the whole family.
Jennifers brother Stephen died just a few weeks before Jennifer. Jennifers brother Ian travelled to Halifax from Ireland to be at his sister’s funeral but was unable to attend due to illness – shortly after passing away himself. This is four bereavements in the space of 6 weeks.
We all grieve differently, and we must process grief in our own individual way – and remember there is no time limits to anything you decide to do – do what you need to do for you!
Be kind to your mind and Be Kind to yourself.
Always be aware of your own words or actions and how these could impact when someone is grieving.
If you need any support or advice, please see the below services who are there to help
The Kallipateira Moorhouse Foundation – Supporting parents who have experienced the death of a baby.
The National Bereavement Service